Stronger Marriage Connection

It's often said that marriage takes work. The Stronger Marriage Connection podcast wants to help because a happy marriage is worth the effort. USU Family Life Professor Dr. Dave Schramm and psychologist Dr. Liz Hale talk with experts about the principles and practices that will grow your commitment, compassion, and emotional connection. 

More than ever before, marriages face obstacles, from the busyness of work and daily hassles to disagreements and digital distractions. It's no wonder why couples sometimes drift apart, becoming resentful, lonely, and isolated.

The Utah Marriage Commission invites you to listen and discover new ways to strengthen and protect your marriage connection today!

Episodes

  • September 26, 2022

    The Key to a Happy Marriage

    Join us as Dr. Dave and Dr. Liz discuss that the foundation for true connection is within ourselves. We will be talking about four guiding principles that will help you develop a meaningful marriage. Come to discover your strengths, learn how to turn towards your spouse, gain a vision for the marriage of your dreams, and see the value of fierce loyalty. 

    0:00 –A happy “we” starts with a happy me: Four principles for happy healthy relationships.
    1:17 –What does it mean to start whole in marriage?
    3:10 –What is the best way to have a good marriage?
    3:58--What is the difference between roots and fruits in thriving relationships?
    5:05 --Foundations of friendship.
    5:48 –The Roots: The power of humility, compassion, & positivity.
    7:11 –Principle 1: Searching Inward
    8:20 –How do I discover my character strengths?
    9:38–What are Dr. Dave’s, Dr. Liz’s, & Rex’s top three Via Character Strengths?
    12:50 –What do I do once I discover my Via Strengths?
    13:35 –Building upon your partner’s strengths.
    14:30 –Principle 2: Turn Outward.
    15:50 –A word of caution.
    16:39 –How do I turn outward towards my partner?
    17:30 –See something -say something.
    18:24–Emotional attunement.
    19:10 –Principle 3: Look Upward
    20:33 –How do I maintain vision?
    21:49 –Principle 4: Press Forward.
    22:33 –Learning to forgive quickly.
    22:45 –Dr. Dave: Learning to stick it out.
    24:02 –Fierce commitment.
    25:00 –The 20% that drives you crazy.
    26:20 –Getting our hearts right: How are you perceiving each other?
    27:05 –Let’s Review: Turn Outward!
    27:40 –How could my partner possibly love me?
    28:20 –Let’s Review: Look Upward!
    28:37 –Grow as you go.
    29:02 –Let’s Review: Press Forward!
    29:21 –Love fluctuates, commitment should never waiver.
    30:48 –Nothing is ever wasted.
    31:13 –Takeaways & Wrap up. 

    Links:

    “Beyond the Myth of Marital Happiness,” by Dr. Blaine Fowers

    https://www.viacharacter.org/

    “How To Improve Your Marriage Without Talking About It,” by Pat Love and Steve Stosny

     

    Visit our site for FREE relationship resources and regular giveaways:

    podcast.strongermarriage.org

    https://www.facebook.com/strongermarriage

     

    Dr. Dave Schramm:

    https://drdaveschramm.com

    https://drdavespeaks.com

    Facebook:

    https://www.facebook.com/DrDaveUSU

    Facebook Marriage Group:

    https://www.facebook.com/groups/770019130329579

    Facebook Parenting Group:

    https://www.facebook.com/groups/542067440314642

     

    Dr. Liz Hale:

    http://www.drlizhale.com/

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  • September 16, 2022

    Stacy Goulding - True Intimacy

    In this week’s episode, Stacy Goulding, shares her unique perspective on true intimacy. Whether you are a newlywed excited to kickstart your marriage in the bedroom, a parent hoping to better prepare your teen or adult child for healthy marital intimacy, or simply ready to deepen your own intimate relationship, there is something here for you!

    0:0 – Introduction: Who is Stacy Goulding?
    1:04 –What is intimacy? What to expect in the True Intimacy Class?
    3:30 –How do I talk to my adult kids about marital intimacy?
    5:48 –What happens when marital intimacy gets off on the wrong foot?
    6:40 –Avoiding unnecessary pain: the True Intimacy Class
    8:50 –Why is it necessary to startfamily planning conversations early?
    9:53 –Turning “the talk” into a conversation.
    11:11 –Not an expert? Try this.
    12:23 –Talking to kids about sex: How early is too early?
    14:25 –Recurring negative sexual experiences: What are they? How do we stop them? 16:52 –Honeymoon expectations: What should I talk about with my partner?
    18:55 –Bring these 2 things to your wedding night!
    20:00 –Learning to laugh together.
    21:06 –Consent is not constant.
    26:03 –Who is sex for?
    29:05 –Where can I find Stacy?

    Stacey Goulding is a licensed Health Educator, the creator of the True Intimacy class, and a wellness coach specializing in women and post-partum wellness. She also loves cycling, dancing, kayaking, pickle-ball, and classic rock. She resides in Utah with her husband and two sons.

    Links:

    https://www.trueintimacyclass.com

    Visit our site for FREE relationship resources and regular giveaways:

    podcast.strongermarriage.org 

    https://www.facebook.com/strongermarriage

     

    Dr. Dave Schramm:

    https://drdaveschramm.com

    https://drdavespeaks.com

    Facebook:

    https://www.facebook.com/DrDaveUSU

    Facebook Marriage Group:

    https://www.facebook.com/groups/770019130329579

    Facebook Parenting Group:

    https://www.facebook.com/groups/542067440314642

     

    Dr. Liz Hale:

    http://www.drlizhale.com/

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  • September 16, 2022

    Bill Doherty - Commitment In Marriage

    In this week’s episode, Dr. Bill Doherty, explains the importance of both boundaries and intimacy in avoiding the consumer marriage. He describes how you can avoid the dangers of believing you are a marriage expert, detect harmful marital therapy, navigate marital difficulties as a novice, and ultimately commit to your marriage.

    0:0 – Introduction: Who is Bill Doherty?
    3:00 – Will 40-50% of marriages really end in divorce?
    4:05 – What’s the danger in acting like a marriage expert?
    9:54 – The value of commitment in 21stcenturymarriages.
    14:58 – What’s the difference between helpful & harmful marriage therapy?
    23:00 – How can I be married for life? Two powerful ingredients.
    27:00 – The consumer marriage & Marital First Responders.
    30:20 – What motivated Bill’s book “Take Back Your Marriage: Sticking Together in a World that Pulls Us Apart”?
    34:17 – How do marital rituals create and sustain happy marriages?
    39:12 – Takeaways& the consumer marriage: What about deal breakers?

    About:

    Bill Doherty is a Professor in the Department of Family Social Science at the University of Minnesota. A long-time marriage and family therapist, he is an expert on navigating marital crisis, avoiding divorce, and using family rituals to enhance the quality of family life. He is the author of“ The Intentional Family” and “Take Back Your Marriage”. In recent years Bill has taken this couples work to the national level via cofounding Braver Angels, an initiative working to decrease the political polarization that is dividing the country. dohertyfoundation.org. Check out “Insights and Invites” on the Stronger Marriage Connection webpage for key episode takeaways and tips on how to improve your marriage connection today!

    Links:

    https://dohertyfoundation.org

    https://braverangels.org

    https://maritalfirstresponders.org

     

    Visit our site for FREE relationship resources and regular giveaways:

    https://strongermarriage.org

    podcast.strongermarriage.org 

    https://www.facebook.com/strongermarriage

     

    Dr. Dave Schramm:

    https://drdaveschramm.com

    https://drdavespeaks.com

    Facebook:

    https://www.facebook.com/DrDaveUSU

    Facebook Marriage Group:

    https://www.facebook.com/groups/770019130329579

    Facebook Parenting Group:

    https://www.facebook.com/groups/542067440314642

     

    Dr. Liz Hale:

    http://www.drlizhale.com/

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  • September 16, 2022

    Getting To Know Dave and Liz

    The doctors are in the house! In this introductory episode, meet Dr. Dave Schramm, a family life professor and extension specialist at Utah State University, and co-host Dr. Liz Hale, licensed clinical psychologist practicing in Salt Lake City, Utah.


    Dave and Liz interview each other and share their backgrounds and expertise in their fields. Dave also explains the why of the Stronger Marriage Connection podcast and goal of the show.

    Let's go!

    Visit our site for FREE relationship resources and regular giveaways:

    podcast.strongermarriage.org 

    Dr. Dave Schramm:

    https://drdaveschramm.com

    https://drdavespeaks.com

    Facebook:

    https://www.facebook.com/DrDaveUSU

    https://www.facebook.com/strongermarriage

    Facebook Marriage Group:

    https://www.facebook.com/groups/770019130329579

    Facebook Parenting Group:

    https://www.facebook.com/groups/542067440314642

     

    Dr. Liz Hale:

    http://www.drlizhale.com/

     

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